“You know what! Your not $#@*!!!! You never do this!!!! And you never do” ……. HOLD IT RIGHT THERE!!!! LADIES! The key to a man’s heart is to NOT NAG! Instead of telling your man what he does or doesn’t do, tell him what he does do right. Boost his confidence, instead of putting him down. Even let him get a little “EGO” as Beyonce the singer would say. I’m telling you this from a guy’s perspective. To many relationships get ruined or end because the guy feels like he’s never doing his job. Think about it like this ladies. The good always out weights the bad. Think positive, and not negative. Men like to feel wanted and needed. Give your man a compliment to show him that you care from time to time. When you nag or complain about what’s wrong, the guy is always thinking “Am I ever going to do anything right?” or “Am I ever good enough??” I can’t speak for every man in the world but from what I’ve encountered , men tend to lean toward talking to or better yet cheating due to this problem not feeling wanted, or scowled at all the time. Positive words of encouragement leads to positive outcomes and situations. Remember women, in order for your relation”SHIP” to sail smoothly, you must first reel in your anchor. Better yet meaning you can make a relationship feel as if you’ve just started off or “set sail” just by words of encouragement.
Alright, I am really into your blog because honestly, guys are a huge mystery to us girls. And every guy will probably say the exact same thing about us girls. But, with your input about your side of a relationship, it gives me a better understanding. Not to brag, but I do not put down my boyfriend. I pretty much do everything you have listed here, but in the end I usually get screwed over because "I'm too nice," and "I deserve better." Maybe I go for the insensitive guys that don't really care, but, what I am trying to get at is that girls are not always to blame.
ReplyDeleteI also was intrigued by your blog because guys do not always speak up about relationship problems like us girls. Learning about a guys perspective will be interesting and possibly help me with mine. I will say that about the "nagging" bit though. Some girls do nag more than others but not always is just telling them things they do right good in a relationship either. Nagging may not be the correct approach but sometimes a guy does need to be told whether they are doing something wrong. Other times a girl is just trying to help him out with something. She should sit down and talk civilly with him though, not just "nag". I did really like your metaphor about the relationSHIP sailing smoothly! That was really cute! :)
ReplyDeleteWell from a guys perspective I thought it was great. Justabout everything you said was right. Just like men every women is differint. It was some great advice for a women.I dont think you should lie to a person though. You should be able to work out you difficulties.
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