Thursday, October 6, 2011
Friend"SHIPS" Don't EXIST
Women when you are having that "hard times" phase in your relationship, who do you always go to? The number one response is friends. Having a support system is key to any success in a relationship, but not every "key" can open every "lock". You might ask yourself... "What is he talking about when he say's key". When i say key i mean friends are a good support system with any situation including relationships, as long as they are positive. Positivity can open many aspects and many "doors" in any situations in life. Negativity won't open doors in life... Yes, friends can give input and feedback on if they think a guy is doing you wrong, but when things are going right and your friend is in your ear, that is when your relation"SHIP" will sink. Look at it this way, no one can make you happy more than that person you care about. No one knows what truly goes on in your relationship except you two in it. No one can tell you how to feel about someone or love someone except your heart! SO STOP LETTING FRIENDS ENCOURAGE YOUR DECISIONS, BECAUSE FRIENDS CAN'T MAKE OR KEEP YOU HAPPY! Alot of times you will be stuck with that "I miss him phase", but then it will be too late. SO LADIES!!!! Listen to your heart, and not your friends. Friend"SHIPS" will sink. Following this advice and your relation"SHIP" will surely sail.
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I agree 100% with this blog post! It is very good to have friends you can go to when your relationship gets rocky but it can also get annoying if your friends constantly nag you about your relationship. I had a problem with one of my friends who didn’t like my boyfriend and it got really annoying. She had no reason not to like him and all of my other friends loved him. I finally asked her to stop judging him and nagging me about him. However, she kept nagging me about it so I just stopped hanging out with her and since then my relationship has been better with my boyfriend. I truly think sometimes your friends input are good but sometimes it can sink your relationship.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree! Having a friend that isn’t supportive of your relationship makes everything frustrating. I have the tendency to call up my best friend when things are bad in my relationship, but she has been my best friend for years so we understand each other and how we deal with situations. So she is usually a help because she makes me look at both sides of the argument and always asks me what I am feeling in my heart and go with that. On the other hand one of my close friends in high school was totally against my relationship for no real reason and she was always on my back about it. She would tell me all the time that I was making a huge mistake by dating him, well let’s just say my friendship with her stayed in high school and my relationship with my boyfriend is still going strong.
ReplyDeleteI like this post you are right. It how can you make yourself happy if you are constently being hassled from your friends. You should be able to make your own choices. I think that your right about the way a friend my ruin your relationship. Stick by what you think is right.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you 100 percent on this. Friends only know the bad things, because we go to them when we are mad or upset because of our boyfriends. Then they think, "Well, if your this upset then he is not right for you." But like I say to all my friends, only I know how good our relationship is. I never let anyone influence what I do. Most of the time, I tell my friends that they are going to have to deal with my boyfriend whether they like it or not! Because my favorite people are my best friend, and my boyfriend.
ReplyDeleteI am really surprised that everyone has agreed with you so fully on this. I definitely see where you are coming from, but I definitely can see the other side of it too. My boyfriend and I do not hang out with each others friends too much so my friends do not know he like I do. Same goes for his friends with me. There is always one of our friends that tell one of us we could do better, or it's not a healthy relationship. So I can see where you are coming from. At the same time, your friends know you best. They can see things that you may not see because you are "blinded by love". One of the worest examples are abusive relationships, the girl sometimes sincerely believes the guy still likes her and wants to stay in the relationship but the friend can clearly see its not good. Now I know that was a bit extreme, but that's just an example. Though you should not always listen to your friends, they should have a strong opinion on your relationship too.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you 100% on this blog. The first person us girls always run to is our friends. And we think that they always have the answer. I go to my friends for a lot of advice but you have those friends that give you the wrong advice because they don’t want to see you happy. You have to also watch out for the people that you call your friends. I also agree with you when said stop letting our friends encourage our decision because friends can’t make or keep you happy. I agreed because to certain extent you friends could make you happy but not in a way a relationship can.
ReplyDeleteI agree with this for sure. There were countless times I let my friends encourage or discourage me in relationships and I wish I could take it all back. At one point, my best friend didn't like who I was with so much that she completely cut herself out of my life to try to force me to break up with him. It worked, but needless to say, I couldn't stand her selfishness much longer so we are no longer friends. Your relationship is YOUR relationship, not theirs, and guys have this same issue too. I've been on the other side of this with HIS friends trying to dictate the relationship and highlighting any mistake made along the way to where he couldn't let it go and move on because his friends kept reminding him. After all that, I learned to stick to myself, vent if needed, but take advice with a grain of salt.
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